Stranded

July 31, 2011

Whatever the official posting date will show, this is when I wrote the text below, on paper with pencil because my computer no longer works. I don't know whether I got a virus, or whether the internet at my friends' doesn't work, or whether it's a combination of both - all I know is that I have my whole life on the computer, my July bank statement, the new life insurance policy that I didn't dare to look at before, my cookbook, and none is accessible. When you'll see this post I'll probably have borrowed a computer somewhere else, because all the computers in this house seem to have the same problem.

I am staying at the house of Marlyse and Jacques, in Le Landeron, near Neuchatel. Except that they are away on vacation. I am sharing the house with daughter Carole who is cramming for her finals for Med School, and son Gauthier who just returned from the US - together we are having fun chatting about New York City. The house of my sister Francoise's in-laws (one passed away in June, the other is in a nursing home) is just a 2 minutes walk from here, but this morning she and her husband drove up to their chalet with a first load of furniture from Zuoz. It's the First of August (Swiss Independence Day) long weekend, but I am not in the mood to celebrate anything. Everybody is gone or busy with family, and after 10 days with my sisters, I am once again alone - terribly so. I know I would feel much better if my computer worked and I could watch a movie, or play with my pictures, or, heaven forbid, balance my check book.

Of course, much has happened since I wrote the last post. The good news is that I found my passport - in the drawer next to where it should have been, under some papers. What a relief - and now I have to worry much less whether the government shuts down or not. The bad news is that there definitely isn't a job for me here in Switzerland. I am therefore on track to get on the boat (literally) on September 20 and to arrive in Portland on September 30. I'll get possession of my house on October 1. I am already in touch with a contractor about fixing up the house and I hope to be settled in by Christmas.

I won't dwell on the departure from Zuoz - because I can't. When the numbness subsides the sadness and the pain are unbearable. I can't write about it because I cry too much to see. Moving day was even worse than anticipated because of a dream I had about my parents during my last night there. Dad and I were hugging each other, he was crying too, because we both knew through what difficulties we were going to have to go together, to start with Mom's death. I still feel his arms around me. The sense if loss brought by the cleaning out of the apartment and the departure from Zuoz is bottomless. By tearing my Dad's place apart, I feel that I have violated him, everything he loved and stood for.

Believe me, I am trying. Trying to be grateful for all I had, my Dad for so many years, for the many hikes with him around Zuoz, for these last 18 months in his cozy apartment, for my sisters with whom I can still share all these memories, for the friends who have invited me to stay with them over the coming weeks. I am trying to look forward rather than dwell on the past.

So, here I am, in a village near Neuchatel. I love this area, between two lakes, nestled against vineyards, at the foot of the Jura mountains. To the south it's flat and this afternoon I took a long (for my standards) bike ride to the Peninsula (Ile St. Pierre) on which 18th century write and philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau lived for a while. There too, memories of outing as a family, and now, me alone, biking with a hole in my heart. For the first time I am feeling like an outsider, I don't belong anywhere.

At least I am enjoying the sunny and warm weather down here in the lowlands. In Zuoz the weather remained cloudy, rainy, cold - to the end. My sisters and I were planning to take a day off from packing and go on a hike - it never happened because the weather just wouldn't cooperate. One afternoon we went for a walk in the St. Moritz area. We never warmed up, despite parkas on top of fleece jackets.

I do need to mention the farewell party I treated myself to. My Zuoz colleague from the bakery and 11 ladies from the gym came, all with their good energy and sense of humor. My sisters helped to carry home the many bottles and the goodies, and did a great job preparing and hosting. The evening left me with warm feelings and invitations to use guest rooms.

It's hard to really understand and accept that there is nothing left in Zuoz to go back to, that the 46 years of family history intertwined with Zuoz are irrevocably over.

(No pictures for this post, since I can't get them onto the internet from my computer - maybe later).